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MailOrderCo
28-11-2005, 12:58 AM
Hi Guys

I used to work in the rat race up at 5am, busy, keeping trim but wanting more, i then got a cushy work at home job i put on some weight and started to get lazy, i think i was alot more motivated doing my low paid work for someone else job.

Now i have my own work at home business in mail order, I have all the business tools i need, including a friend/mentor in the same business as me who is making millions on the other side of the pond, who gives advice on my business.

Now i know the big house i want, the cars and bikes i want and all the toys i will get myself when i have made it and how much all these things will cost me, these thoughts give me the desire to go and lock myself in my home office and get to work, which i will do, but the next day i wake up all lazy again, and usually end up doing house chores, watching tv, playstation or watching my fish and turtles, going out on my sportsbike or visiting people or even sleeping all day even when i have slept all night,

There must be others in the same boat, if so how did you manage to get yourself out of this and into full get up and go working mode every day ?

I seem to be acheiving nothing and going nowhere fast and nothing is changing.

Any advice greatly accepted, i even have a few property development projects waiting for me to sort out which only need my time to sort out, once there done there is a potential few hundred grand profit waiting in that for me, even these i either forget to do or just can't get motivated to sort out.

Kindest regards
Marc

Martin
28-11-2005, 01:35 AM
I believe it comes down to how much you really want it...

That drive can deminish over time when it feels your on a treadmill going nowhere.... But certain things can help.

Working from home can be distracting like you mentioned, would renting a small office/unit help?

I mean like the idea of waking up, driving to work to see your logo on the property, and maybe taking on staff so you feel your business is growing?

This would also help with commitment to the cause, because with it comes responsibility of others. (and there lives, who have families to feed, rent to pay etc) With the possible profits from the Property Deals it could be an option?

Another thing that comes to mind, is this mail order business really what you want to do, or are you doing it because of the help from your friend? (And that it pays the bills?)

If that was the case I'd change sector to something I was interested in, something that you might have good idea's to implement of your own....

Another idea might be to set a "Misson Statement"...Its basically the same as "what you want to do" but everyone will know your not just a mail order company, but one thats striving to do WhatEver... Your commitment to this goal should drive things forward.

Something I have seen before is people thinking to much of what they will do once they have made it... Remember Live For The Journey, Not The Destination.... Become the best businessman you can and the destination will arrive by itself.

Even after saying all that I know exactly what you mean, myself like others here I expect have to remember these points to keep that drive up... But **** days happen, just remember the next day is a brand new start :)

Anyways all the best, hope it works out.

Martin

Jon123
28-11-2005, 08:42 AM
I find a good way to motivate is to set goals in the morning look at them at night a tick of what you have done.

If you did that for your property developing you might find that it breaks it down and becomes easier.like set yourself each room individually then the goals within in the room when it is done move on and you complete it section by section.

a few hundred grand is a lot of money look at something you want to buy with it maybe a flashy car, bike visit and think if i develop these propertys i can buy it.

I remember one of the mentors from make me a million would do that with houses. he would look at a house that he wanted to buy, then that would motiviate him to make the money to buy it.

ACN
28-11-2005, 09:00 AM
This is an interesting post.

Only this morning i thought that my life has taken on a 'ground hog day' sameness.

For twenty years i wanted to make a living from art, three years ago i was able to do that to a lesser degree then i would have wanted but all the same i was making my living from selling my artwork.

For the first couple of years i was able to get up early (5.30am) work through until 8pm and enjoy what i was doing, however during the last 8 months or so i have become less motivated. As martin says it begins to feel that life is a treadmill going nowhere. I also think a seperate place to work would help, in my case a studio/office but at the moment funds are not available for this. I even set up a timetable alloting time slots for various jobs but within a couple of hours something else had come up and that was that!

To distract and re-motivate myself i have gone down the route of developing a number of different ideas, although none have yet to work out, the thing is whilst i am doing that the main thrust of my business isn't getting the attention it needs.

I know from experience that in my case being an artist i can get to a great high by selling my work but conversly when the work doesn't sell i go down and it is then a struggle to 'justify' painting pictures that might not sell, so i distract myself with another idea and thus the circle continues. Also being an artist is a solitary occupation, when i first started out this didn't matter but now it does sometime i crave the company of 'workmates'.

Marc i know exactly how you feel but what to do about it is a different matter, getting into this state and frame of mind happens quickly but getting out will take some time.

Sherry_D
28-11-2005, 09:26 AM
I read books of sucessful people and it just gives me the drive.

At the moment i have loosing my virginity by Richard Branson, Start up by lizzie Jackson and you can do it by the lady who started coffee republic and i also have another book about Coca cola and also the rich dad poor dad cash quadrant. I get lots of inspiration from reading these books. I get all the books from my local library

cc123
28-11-2005, 11:49 AM
If you are feeling lazy at home do this in the morning www.cameroncaine.co.uk/workouts/bodybootcamp.html

:) disgusting self promotion i know!

on the thoughts of the thread - i am less concerned with wanting thigns and being able to kick back - the thrill factor for me is the thought of being in control of my time - not answering to anyone. being able to lok back at the end of the day and ask 'did I do anything of significance in my life'

MailOrderCo
28-11-2005, 12:33 PM
Thanks for the replys, I am always reading the books aswell, trouble is i read them cover to cover as soon as i get them, so i have a stack of books if anyone wants to borrow any, just finished Donald Trumps book.

CAMERON, thanks for that link, I used to be really fit and muscle, did weights, boxing, and ten miles of bike riding before breakfast every morning, I am going to do you workout you showed me there, everyday monday to friday at 6am, X3 cicuits. Its also going to be down to what i eat aswell, although i have cut down and lost 6 pounds in 2 weeks, i need this exercise aswell to stimulate mind and body.

I would be willing to pay you a monthly fee Cameron to email me what to eat and what to do exercise wise, is that what you do ?

To everyone else, thanks again I really think motivation should be a permanant topic on here. You will be pleased to know after reading alot of posts on here i got to work straight away this morning, no messing about or TV and managed to get one of the property deals near completion, just going to do something completely different now and go and view the site in question, which is something i normally do from maps and plans :-) I am then going to the BMW garage to see what vehicle i want to aim for next, and hopefully get my property development project sent off to the relevant people by the end of today :-)

I just need each day to go like today, and that can only be done by one person, ME. Tomorrow morning will see me up early to start the cameron caine workout

Thanks, Marc

cc123
28-11-2005, 12:39 PM
Id be more than happy to give free advice on what to do and what to eat. It depends what your goals along with a number of other factors. All I would ask in return is you subscribe to the newsletter on my site and tell other people about it. If you want to drop me a line maybe we can discuss further what your current state of play is and I'll give you my opinion
Cam@cameroncaine.co.uk

good luck - hope you enjoy the workout!

Play!!
28-11-2005, 01:12 PM
Marc, have you read any of Napoleon Hills books. Ive been reading the same book for the last couple months. Hard to take it all in, in one go. They are good for motivation aswell as gaining some knowledge.

I think theres only one thing that keeps me going and its the belief that I can get what I want. I know I will succeed its just a matter of time.

Phil
28-11-2005, 01:54 PM
I agree with cameron - get yourself to the gym and get active again.

When I was at uni, during exam periods I would (although often got dragged by my girlfriend) go to the gym every morning before I started revision for exams. The adrenaline certainly woke me up and helped me work so much better, and later, during the day. Plus as I was exercising I was able to eat more of what I wanted so didn't feel depressed and de-motivated from that.

Rachael
28-11-2005, 01:58 PM
How about getting yourself a part time job? Will get you out and about and socialising also earn you a bit of cash - not to mention how much you'll realise what working for yourself is all about.

neiliboy
28-11-2005, 02:34 PM
Dude....

Without going into too much detail I am in EXACTLY the same position as u.....my biggest weakness is having the internet running in the background.......i end up surfing for literally hours........anyway my van arrives on Wednesday and I'll be forced to start workig my nuts off as our savings are fast depleting!

Not very helpful i know but as long as you know there are others out there with the same issues!

Rachael
28-11-2005, 03:03 PM
neili one of the other members finds it useful to disconnect his internet (he's a web designer) as it stops him surfing.

Phil
28-11-2005, 03:37 PM
that might be me :)

drkesorn
29-11-2005, 03:32 PM
I got the same slow growth. For me, I will be very lazy down under the pool until it reaches the bottom. Then, the eagar feeling is coming back again. Why don't you let it go for a while, have a break. Then, you will feel better :).

Bumptastic
29-11-2005, 08:56 PM
I have moments where I'm totally motivated and moments where I think about just chucking it all in and doing something else, and we're probably all the same.

For me one of the problems of running a business on my own is having to do everything, and there are so many areas that i really loathe doing (paper work mostly) that it makes it difficult to enjoy the parts i love. Or I just concentrate on the bits i enjoy and put off the rest until it becomes a huge mountain of scary work!!

Although I'm not one to exercise i do agree that it makes a difference, I walk my children to school in the mornings and when i get home feel really ready to get started, much more than when i used to drive them to nursery.

But the biggest thing in motivation is desire and belief, if you really really want it, you'll do it as long as you believe you can.

Sarah

TheBrute
29-11-2005, 09:21 PM
it depends what YOU want out of it, I would say whenever you feel that your lacking motivation, stop what your doing and chill out for abit and focus on what good will come if and when you become successful, I always find looking at the million pound+ homes on rightmove.co.uk gives me a bit of motivation as I want a nice BIG home one day ;)

MailOrderCo
30-11-2005, 01:38 AM
Thanks for the replys, you all have some great point's.

I found looking at the next car,bike,toys and big house i want is the ultimate motivator. I have known what i wanted from the start, just forget sometimes.

Cams exercise routine was a major help this morning, am going to keep that up and i think he is going to email me a diet plan over.

Another point i started to worry is when i keep changing direction, this i thought was me purely not motivated, but i think thats just a entrepreneur thing that we all do ?

If i find myself in a business ticking over with no room for growth and no chance of it ever getting me the things i want and to be where i want, then i will quickly divert and research something else.

The big buzz is knowing i am the boss, i am in control and the things i want, the toys, the cars, the houses are all in my hand if i want them, thats what my motivator is now :-)

So after a few years of making a living in different things, my final direction for my companies are:

1). Internet Mail Order of innovative products.
2). Adult Retail and mail order with a difference.
3). Property Development (not doing houses up)

From my view, Number 1 and 2 can be quite similar and can pretty much be run with the same business model and set-up, Number 3 is totally different from 1 and 2 and gets me a break from 1 and 2 and can be quite lucrative while not to time consuming.

Kind Regards
Marc :-)

lizshome
30-11-2005, 09:37 AM
Marc,

Very random question but think you sound like someone that I know... You don't happen to live in Cheltenham do you and know Jo Tompson/Jon Lanceley?

Appologies if i'm completely wrong!
Liz

MailOrderCo
30-11-2005, 09:48 AM
Hi Liz

Sorry thats not me :-) i am in staffordshire

Kindest regards
Marc